A concise on the web dating profile is crucial for a female to steer clear of giving out inappropriate messages and wasting time on hopeless dates and emails with unsuitable men. This is the second in a series of articles about constructing the proper profile, and explains how to develop a description of her perfect man.
The first thing, clearly, is to be realistic, and not set your sights too high.
Talk to your Close Friends
Discuss your profile ideas with your close buddies and seek their view – they may offer you with surprising suggestions about the kind of man they believe is appropriate for you. This can be really beneficial, specifically if they knew your prior partner (if you had one that is).
What Type of Person are you Really Searching For?
Picture the sort of person you are looking for and discover eight or ten key words or phrases which describe that person. These words really should be both positive and negative. For example, loyal, loving, income not critical though it helps, affectionate, own teeth and hair, cuddly, likes dancing and pets, no gamblers or heavy drinkers.
Use your past relationship(s) as a guide – what was good and what was bad – this is where talking to a friend or buddies can support as they may possibly see aspects that you are not aware of.
Though most dating websites will have sections which cover smoking, drinking, interests, music, food and so on, if any of these are very essential to you, then your list need to contain them to emphasise your preferences.
Take for example, dancing. You may well like to dance, but there is a difference between ‘ticking the Dancing Box’ under Interests, and the truth that you go to Line Dancing 3 nights a week. If Dancing genuinely is that important to you then you need to spell it out, and suggest that the man you seek will be a Line Dancing fanatic. On the other hand of course, you may possibly be doing 3 nights a week of line dancing to fill in empty evenings until a man comes along. So, be clear about what you want and make it clear in your description of the man you seek. Steer clear of the Identical Mistake Once more
If you have been in a challenging relationship in the past, you need to remember that there is a tendency for a lot of ladies to be attracted to characteristics they recognise. If these characteristics were not healthy for you then make it clear in your profile that these attributes are unattractive (for example, heavy gambling or drinking). Clearly, saying that you are not seeking an individual violent is not effortless to put into words without seeming a bit obvious, but there are approaches of doing it, such as:
‘I have been in a physically(/verbally) abusive relationship in the past, and what I am searching for now is a tender and affectionate man who treats ladies as ladies and knows how to demonstrate love’.
This will not filter out all abusive men, but will narrow down the field considerably.
So, be conscious of this risk and make sure you eradicate such folks at this early stage.
In summary then, be clear in your mind what’s essential to you in the man you seek, and say so clearly in your online dating profile.